Boy’s Don’t Cry | Meghna Pant | Based on a True Story

Meghna Pant is a multiple award-winning author, feminist, speaker, journalist and columnist.  She is known as one of India’s best writers.  Her latest book Boy’s Don’t Cry is based her own “life” story and is already optioned for OTT.  It is great that she is speaking out openly as it will give a lot more women courage to speak up and take charge.  This book also breaks the myth – that this cannot happen to someone like me.

There are 200M abused women in India.  Let the number sink in.   Furthermore, studies indicate that even if the incidents of physical abuse only occur one or two times in the relationship, he will continue to physically assault you – Yet we continue to believe that MEN will change…

The story is one of sweet revenge.  But more importantly – how we as women stay in  bad relationships for many reasons such as

  1. What will people say
  2. Our biological clock
  3. Fear to be alone
  4. That we deserve it
  5. All relationships are like this.

10 Statements from Boy’s Don’t Cry

  1. ‘Divorce is not about rejection, Bhaiya,’ I say. ‘It’s about celebration. Freedom! Happiness! You understand?’
  2.   A failed marriage has not diminished me. It’s not been futile. Its collapse has not been a coincidence, but a tightly structured design to lead me, like a magic carpet, into a future that is bright and hopeful. This provides me with great consolation.
  3. Divorce is my rejuvenation. It’s broken everything inside me, so I can get better and stronger.’
  4. This could not be happening to me. I was too modern for this, too educated, too well-travelled, too independent, too . . . unprepared. I started crying.  ‘Don’t educated, modern women from good families get hit? Every third woman in India is a victim of domestic abuse.
  5. It doesn’t matter if she lives in a chawl in Bhatinda or in a fancy penthouse on Malabar Hill. Money, status, independence and education do not save a woman from violence.’  ‘But, you weren’t some abla nari—’

    More Statements from Boy’s Don’t Cry

  6. ‘We lived in a world where girls like me had been raised to think that if a man molested us, it was our fault. If someone teased us, it was our fault.
  7. ‘She didn’t speak about it because who would listen? Who would care? Women who speak out are rarely believed, leave alone applauded. Instead, they are told to keep quiet. They are shamed and demeaned. Even in my so-called modern circle, a cousin—that same masi’s daughter—told me “adjust kar lo”. A friend told me that I must have provoked Suneet to “make him hit me”. Some uncle told my parents that I must’ve left Suneet no other choice. People gossiped that I was “making up stories”to justify my divorce.’
  8. Because, as any divorcee will tell you, divorce is not the worst-case scenario in a bad marriage, living with your own stupidity is.
  9. A woman, among millions of women over the world, who tolerated anything at the hands of men in the hope that they would change.
  10. There it was. First, they wanted a working wife for their son, who also cooked and cleaned. Now, they wanted a rich working wife, who also cooked and cleaned. Did they think that their unemployed lazy son was such a good catch?
Speaker | Personality Details
Meghna Pant
Author

Meghna Pant is an award-winning author, columnist, feminist and TEDx speaker. Her books have been published to critical and commercial acclaim. Pant's debut collection of short stories Happy Birthday (Random House, 2013) was long-listed for the Frank O'Connor International Award 2014. One and a Half Wife (Westland, 2012)-her bestselling debut novel-won the national Muse India Young Writer Award and was shortlisted for several other awards, including the Amazon Breakthrough Novel Award. Her latest book The Trouble with Women (Juggernaut, 2016) is considered a landmark in feminist writing and was described as 'the best book from Juggernaut' by Hindu BusinessLine.

Pant has also won the FON South Asia Short Story Award (2016) and the Bharat Nirman Award (2017) for her writing.